The ultimate struggle for many of us is just learning how to love…ourselves, our lives, and the people we keep closest to us. The ability to love can solve numerous problems, from the obvious struggle to have a happy partnership and family life to the less-expected struggle to be physically healthy. In fact, having a healthy relationship with food comes with the same challenges of having a healthy… well, relationship!
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You have needs. You can’t deny them.
Right? You can’t expect to live life without food just as it’s unlikely that you can get through life without romance. We have to eat, and we have to figure out how to get along with people. Food and companionship are both vital, and ignoring their importance for too long leads to disaster. Opting out of either relationship just means you’re putting off the hard work it takes to really improve your life.
Bring the heat!
Every relationship needs a little FIRE and your relationship with food is no different. Don’t buy your food pre-made…get cooking! Don’t let a factory do all the work for you–process your own ingredients! Show that stove some love and it might not be the only way you get warm tonight.
Don’t expect a quick-fix.
Much like the hard work of a healthy marriage, a healthy relationship with food isn’t something that just “happens.” No book will singularly solve your emotional issues; no diet craze will prevent future health struggles. Getting better takes time, it takes effort, it takes commitment. It takes some hard work to have a healthy life (although in my opinion it’s much harder not to!)
The devil is in the details.
All the love in the world won’t ensure a harmonious relationship without figuring out the small lifestyle details that breed harmony. And no matter how much you WANT to eat well, without a daily plan you aren’t likely to succeed. Plan, analyze, theorize and experiment with the behaviors that will get your life right with the same focus you apply to your career, and you will see success. And honestly what’s less important, doing well at your job or doing well at your life?
Not every problem can be solved with logic.
In any relationship challenge, it’s tempting to try and fix it solely by attacking the problem logically. But sometimes we have to let go of the analytical and embrace the emotional. Love can save your relationship from devastation when problems seem insurmountable. And if you don’t love what you’re eating and love the activities you’re doing, you probably won’t maintain your lifestyle. With a partner or a healthy life, you’ve got to let love guide you. Cook your food and have fun doing it. Make meals you are excited to eat and MAKE IT TASTE GOOD! When you love your food, it WILL love you back.